Enjoy Being Single While Preparing for Love

In the pursuit for love you must first tap into the source of it and rather than looking outside of yourself wishing and hoping for others to love you, look inside and find where it has resided all along.

Here’s the thing, when you so badly want to be loved and yet you are not yet being love yourself, it its nearly impossible to find it. When you are single you have an opportunity to create your life - to practice embracing the present moment and live life fully and by your terms. This is such a great time for you to take the time to really know yourself deeply and intimately, accept you fully - all of you, improve the relationships that exist and create a loving and supportive network.

This is the time to create your life’s vision, discover your passions and start living them, understand your purpose and what makes you tick. This is the time to begin to strategically create and attract the life and love that you desire.

This is the time to define your requirements for a partner. You decide with conscious clarity how you want to relate and be treated in a relationship. You decide what values are the most important to you and what features are non-negotiable in order for you to know that a person is the right one for you in a relationship. You create the environment in which you know you will thrive and can enjoy life long sustaining love.

Enjoy the relationships that exist now, dwell in the possibilities, revel in the time alone and create some time that you are willing to share with the right partner for you.

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Reflect on Sadness

Today I am reflective. I want to make sense of my sadness when by all accounts, I should be happy. I am living in a great community, meeting new people. I live in a spacious condo on the water, decorated with my new sense of experimental style. I have an opportunity to decide what I would like to do for a career, yet there is no hurry. I can enjoy this time of space and suspension. Yet, I don’t. I miss the people who should be filling up the space here with me. I do not know how to make the ache go away.

Suddenly, it hit me. I don’t think that I ever really believed that a man would love me completely. So if I have this deep mistrust of being loved, it is no wonder that all my relationships end the same way - over. I think I have always worried that once someone really gets to know me, they will not like me, and guess what, that has been so true. In both of my marriages, and in my last great fling, again, it was true.

I am not sure that I even want to spend the time of seeing where this might be true in my first marriage. It was so long ago, and I don’t feel any pain there. I was so young, the circumstances so very typical for being that young and for my time. I thought I was marrying someone different from what I knew. He was not. His family was what I thought I wanted, and I naively believed that he was like his family and my life would be like that. Of course, I did have his family, I just did not have him. I also have the gift of the child we created.

My second marriage, I got a little smarter in knowing what I wanted in a man. I got what I wanted to the extent I knew what that was. I also did not heed the warning signs. I was so grateful to be with someone who I ordained to be a god next to me, that I lost sight of me completely, for a while, anyway. I always thought he was better than me, and by the time I realized that neither of us was better, we were both different, I also tired of the constant struggle of power. Although I lost sight of myself several times in that marriage, I also found myself, too. Of course, there was so much good, too. I prefer to remember why I loved him, why I stayed so long. But then, I have to remind myself there was a reason it ended. So, I look at it only to raise myself from self-doubt, blame and guilt.

I also want to make sense so I can do it right finally. I wonder if that is even possible. LIndy tells me it is. I want to believe her. Yet, based on the men I have been meeting lately, I can’t help but wonder how. The way I have been acting lately, I am sure it is not. I need to gather my courage and strength and learn how to enjoy being alone. I used to think I was special and had so much to offer, and lately I cannot help wondering if this is still true.

I am terrified of making another mistake with a man. I certainly know what I do not want in a relationship. I have lots of practice there. In the last year, I have had even more exposure to what I do not even want in a dating relationship, never mind a permanent one. Maybe it is time, to look at things differently. After all, one can always hope.

Sadie Jackson, a fictional heroine, is back on the dating scene for the third time. After two trial marriages, she is bound and determined to get it right.She can be nauseatingly optimistic and enjoys recounting her dating experiences with humor and compassion.Follow her dating escapades in this work of fiction that will be updated on a regular basis.

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Laughter - One of the Best Stress Reducers

I don’t usually share funny stories here but I think this one is worth sharing and it’s too long to write in Facebook. So we start from the premise that laughter is one of the best stress reducers ever. And, another thing that I have learned is that we need to give our inner child the rein occasionally because if we don’t she or he will break free when you least expect it and cause utter havoc. You can’t just put him or her in a closet and expect to never hear from them again. Children don’t have eternal patience and neither do your inner children.

So having learned from my father and grandfather how to safely let my inner child go free and that stress is a great way to keep things mellow I occasionally create funny situations in my home. My husband thank goodness shares my humor.

So for the funny story. My husband was getting ready to go out, putting on his sneakers, in fact. There was a pile of change on the dining room table and when he wasn’t looking I put it in his sneaker. Now normally this would be pretty funny when he put his foot in the sneaker but nothing happened. He laced up and stood to leave. Meanwhile I am on the deck viewing this and beginning to burst with laughter. Having known me for years he understand the signs and knows I did something.
He finally realizes that his foot doesn’t fit quite right and knows what I have done. We are now hysterically laughing. This little trick provided more laughter then I had anticipated.

So you say, I’m not laughing here. Guess this must be one of those locations jokes. If you don’t walk away laughing I hope this will serve to give you permission to bring a little silliness and laughter into your home during a time when many of us need it.

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Latest Celebrity Tweets from Chloe - July 10th

Following Celebs on Twitter is soooo much fun! I get to see the latest news before it hits the news. Before I had to wait until CNN, ET or People magazine. Now I get it live. Can’t beat it!

Congrats love your new line! RT @moonfryeThanks 4 the love sweets! Demi Moore

Time is running out 2 vote for @adamlambert and @TheRealJordin on the Take40SA: http://bit.ly/Robx6 Vote once, VOTE AGAIN – Jordan Sparks


On my way to the label for a little morning chat. see you after dinner. – Josh Groban

HOW’S THIS FOR QUICK REMEDY? I JUST GOT THE GREATEST NEWS ON MY NEW SHOW…feel like it’s CHRISTMAS but can’t open presents yet.STOCKED – Kirsty Alley

i am so exhausted! – Jennifer Aniston

Don’t forget to check out www.daughtryofficial.com daily for new info! I can’t keep up. LOL – Chris Daughtry

Just let Michael Jackson R.I.P!!!! This is NOT a story you guys! Let it rest! – Miley Cyrus

The traveling Idols are silent today. Perhaps they are sleeping. I think Adam was a bit punchy the other day. Tweeting like crazy and even coined a new twitter vocabulary word. Twat - for lame Tweets.

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Ciao from Chloe

More Fun Stuff to do in New Hampshire

If you’re looking for something to do that’s both unique and relaxing try the NH Wine & Cheese and Chocolate & Martini Tours. Whether you’re looking for something to do with a group of friends, with your spouse or on a date this looks like it would be a treat. Here’s more information and some links.

NH Wine & Cheese and Chocolate & Martini Tours. Although New Hampshire is far from Napa Valley, our state offers a unique experience to visit boutique wineries and tour family farms that produce delectable cheese. Visitors could savor the experience over a week-long “road trip” or just spend a day exploring the different wineries and dairy farms in one area of the state. Here’s a sampling of what New Hampshire has to offer:

• Near Seacoast – The largest and oldest wineries in the state are located near the coast, where grapes thrive from the milder temperatures and longer growing season
o Candia Vineyards, Candia – One of New England’s most-awarded boutique vineyards
o Zorvino Vineyards, Sandown – Wine made here from grapes grown on 80 acres of land
o Jewell Towne Vineyards, South Hampton – On the shores of the scenic Powow River

• Valley Vineyards, Orchards & Dairies – Moving up and down the western border of the state, visitors can feel the history, rich agricultural traditions and striking beauty of the Connecticut River Valley
o Boggy Meadow Cheese Plant, Walpole (Monadnock Region) – Where they transform raw milk from a dairy herd of Holsteins into sumptuous cheese from old Alpine recipes
o Silver Mountain Farms, Lempster (Dartmouth-Lake Sunapee Region) – They make traditional hard cider and all-natural fruit wines; open year-round for tours & tastings
o Landaff Creamery, Landaff (White Mountains) – Small, unique farmstead cheese creamery producing Landaff Cheese from a traditional Welsh recipe

• Merrimack Valley – Located in the heart of New Hampshire, Manchester serves as a gateway to the Merrimack Valley and Lakes Region:
o La Belle Winery, Amherst – Award-winning boutique winery transforming local fruit into spectacular wine
o The Black Dog Vineyard, Salisbury – Up-and-coming winery opening in 2010
o Stone Gate Vineyard, Gilford – Produces wine from native and French cold climate grapes
o Via Lactea Farm, Brookfield – Classic farm store and goat dairy

For more complete information, visit: http://www.visitnh.gov/uploads/wine-cheese-itinerary-f2.pdf
For information on our new Chocolate & Martini Itinerary, visit: http://www.visitnh.gov/uploads/chocolate-martini-itinerary.pdf
And for complete listings of lodgings, restaurants, events, activities (by seasons and themes) and more, visit: www.visitnh.gov.

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Great Weather for the Tall Ships in Boston

About Sail Boston 2009Boston’s history stretches beyond the land to the sea. Boston has a wealth of maritime history – both past and present. Bostonians welcome crews and cadets from all over the world to their harbor on a continual basis as part of the Sail Massachusetts Visiting Ship Program and are gearing up to greet the return of the Tall Ship fleet for Sail Boston 2009!
For more information and the schedule for Friday-Sunday use the link below to go to our website.

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Finding Something Positive on a Gloomy Day

I’ve been really trying to figure out how to keep my spirits up with all this gloomy weather. It’s bad enough for normal people but I’m one of the Seasonal Affective Disorder people. So when the sun isn’t out my energy and mood are pretty low. Yesterday was a serious chocolate crisis day. When I got up this morning to another rainy day I decided that I needed to try something else before I blow up into a balloon and float away (Wait a minute maybe I could float above the clouds).

I decided this morning that I needed to start focusing on the little things that brought a smile or laugh. For instance - My miniature dachshund eats to quickly. We mentioned this to our vet who advised us to buy this plastic dispenser that forces him to take more time to eat. So this morning I decided to try him at it. It’s a giant (almost half his size) purple plastic egg that screws together with the food in the middle and two holes on either side. It was so funny to watch him batty it around. At one point he managed to pick it up in his teeth by the lip of one side and throw it. Definitely took longer for him to get his food down and was a hoot to watch.

So I guess this bad weather has made it possible for me to enjoy the little things in life that I would have rushed through. Not too shabby.

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